Consent is self-love
What is consent and how is consent linked to self-love? First of all, let’s note that all truth is but a prism or point of view of the observer, and constantly in flux. So a “truth” is only that of our point of view, and at a given moment.
So, let’s start with the Larousse definition of consent, so that we can expand on the theme and on self-love (defined by Rousseau as self-love through the eyes of others), a prism that has its limits in my humble opinion.
Consent
Larousse dictionary
The act of agreeing to an action or project; acquiescence, approval, assent.
If consent were to be given. I’d like to invite you to explore this term in all aspects of our lives. in all aspects, not just sexuality or the medical world, where they are frequently used.
The complexity of consent comes from the fact that it involves multiple people, from 2 to more, or society in general. You can, of course, be non-consenting, and we’ll get to that too, but this one is a big deal, and few people even consider it, even though it’s really interesting.
Each of us, in our lives, at every moment, makes decisions, makes choices, and one of the great reflections on this is: At what point do I allow myself to revoke consent? And on this aspect, many opinions diverge, because some people judge their own consent out of self-loathing, fear of not being loved, integrated, appreciated, or betrayed, and so on.
Perhaps these terms sound too strong for some of you, but I suggest you meditate on them for a while, and come to terms with the inner emotion and dissonance you feel when you’re faced with a situation (discussion, or other) that doesn’t suit you, and for fear of offending, of hurting, of the person opposite taking it badly… you decide to keep quiet, or to do nothing, to let it go.
Here we are faced with the tacit consent of giving your personal power to others. What is it that makes you not want to express your disagreement or rejection of this situation at that moment, with delicacy, or simply in a calm manner?
Consent, whether yours or anyone else’s, is revocable at any moment, and is the essence of the unique being you are, and of the love you give yourself. If you react with anger or fury, it’s possible that the situation has become so unacceptable (as a reaction to past situations you’ve let slide) that the last straw is too much, and it explodes… So you’re probably angry with yourself, not with the other person fundamentally, and he’s opened a breach).
Sometimes when I express this thought, it’s shocking, it’s “illogical”, dissonant, not coherent, in the eyes of the other person, and you know what? I’d like to say that it’s totally OK and almost normal, because consent is the opposite of an imposed limit, and the limit is unbearable for the ego.
Let’s take a sexual example. A couple are chatting, having a tender moment, and want to have sex, and practice anal sex. At the moment of the Anal act, the first one starts, and the other partner, who usually enjoys it, stiffens and doesn’t feel like it anymore. If the first force is a Rape, he has violated the other’s consent, and at the same time his own integrity. If the other doesn’t say anything, he gives his consent, against his will, and goes against self-love.
This example clearly shows that consent can be given and taken back at any time: it’s the very basis of consent. Of course, the first may feel frustrated, angry, annoyed, find the other illogical, indecisive, changeable, moody, but in the end, he or she will have been confronted by the other’s self-love, which takes precedence over his or her own personal wishes.
Having taken a relatively strong example on purpose, because we don’t often see consent in our relationships, our moments of exchange with others, our employees, employers, etc. in this way.
It is essential to note that no energetic treatment, hypnosis, E.F.T. or any complementary or alternative medicine can replace medical advice and follow-up, and that in the event of any doubt, medical advice is obligatory.
I don’t diagnose, because I’m not a doctor, and only doctors can diagnose and treat.
If you are taking medication, it is IMPERATIVE to consult your doctor before making any changes to your treatment, and it is essential not to make any changes without consulting your doctor.
Many people take pleasure in their personal non-consent, giving an agreement they disapprove of, when in fact they do not agree. Sometimes they express it and the other person forces their hand, or raises their voice, gets angry, and other reactions, without realizing at the time that they’ve violated the basic rule… everything is revocable, at all times, out of self-love.
When I revoke my consent, it’s not against the other person, I’m not doing it because I wish them ill, I’m doing it because at that moment, what’s happening is not acceptable to me. Does that mean I’m illogical, changeable, moody? Maybe yes, for the other person, but I’m doing this for myself, not against the other person, and in this lies consent.
I make the decision that, for myself, out of love for myself, I revoke a consent I gave in the past, whether it was established 10 years, 1 month or 10 seconds ago. Our society isn’t used to this kind of reflection, and the most important thing is, from where I’m sitting, to be able to express one’s feelings, and one’s consent or non-consent, without animosity, just calmly.
If when you revoke your consent, you do so with anger, irritation and resentment, I suggest you look inside yourself for what reason you let this happen for so long without saying anything. Of course, with a lot of compassion, and without guilt for not having listened to ourselves before, so that we can move forward with plenty of gentleness and self-love.
I was also talking to you about personal consent from self to self. And while it’s powerful, it’s short on explanations. When you ask yourself a question, or have to make a choice, for you, some people go by feeling, intuition, or gut feeling… and that’s usually right. Sometimes this leads to an unpleasant but instructive situation, and we needed this to move forward. However, many people don’t listen to their own consent, and give power to their mind, instead of their animal, magnetic intuition, which already knows.
Observe this contraction of your body when you go against yourself, even in your personal choices related to you alone. It’s a wonderful process.
Deep reflection on our actions, exchanges, discussions and personal evolution takes place when we decide to explore these aspects of self-love and personal consent. Revealing our path, what we decide to explore, discover and offer to others, out of self-love. This frees us from the need to be loved, and at the same time from Rousseau’s proposition of self-love through the eyes of others… Because the essential view is yours, and the ability to be illogical, inconsistent, incoherent, precisely because you navigate by feeling… totally aligned with your inner self.
Wishing you a great deal of reflection on this theme, I suggest that if it resonates with you and you wish to move forward on these aspects, you join one of my healing programs, such as energy healing or therapeutic hypnosis, which can free many patterns and offer great personal breakthroughs.